‘The researchers are into the absinthe again….’

What in the holy flying crap is this?? Read some of the article and got to the bit comparing Autistic people to dogs – and not for the nice reasons and thought ‘hmm, the researchers have got into the absinthe again”

That was me on Facebook this evening, somewhat baffled and upset by some very dubious research (I use the term very lightly in this instance) relating to Autistic people apparently being less ‘domesticated’ than the non-autistic folks. There was a comparison to dogs at one point and physical features pointed out using a crude diagram apparently of an autistic boy with arrows pointing to all his apparently ‘undomesticated’ features.

As an Autistic person I see this sort of this stuff way too often. It goes hand in hand with other unhelpful advice – charlatans preying on parents of Autistic kids whose need for information and support they exploit with expensive ‘cures’. One example was the $35 per litre camel milk which will ‘make your child more neurotypical’. The inverted commas are because the is actually a quote form someone who had somehow got a PhD and was a paid sponsor at a conference. The same  person beseeched conference delegates to forgo antibiotics in pregnancy! So if you have bacterial meningitis and you are pregnant, apparently you need to die or your child might be autistic (which presumably according to this speaker was worse than dying)! Sadly this is the tip of the ice beg with dangerous and unproven ‘cures’ from chelation to bleach enemas apparently somehow magically ‘fixing’ Autistic children. Some of these things are outright violence on defenceless kids and about as likely to ‘fix’ autism as eating Mr Kitty’s whiskers!.

I think there is one main reason for these charlatanism, ’cures’ and dodgy research. Now I am usually someone who describes her little cat-loving, book-writing self as an advocate rather than an activist – but when it comes to this sort of thing I do have good reason to pop on my activist hat. The reason is that these ‘cures’ and related things come from a very nasty premise, that Autism is some horrible curse which means parents will never bond with their child, that the Autistic person will be a burden and it is all so tragic and that Autistic reality is just this big, puzzling, strange world of freaky weirdness. ‘Your child will never say I love you!’ these folks shriek. ‘

This is all pretty fraught territory but it shouldn’t be. Autistic people are not broken. We are not fundamentally unfathomable. Certainly Autistics and their families can go through some pretty challenging, unpleasant stuff. So can non-autistic children and their families. If we start from the premise that a child is never going to be able to express ‘normal’ emotions (I’m not sure what these are, but anyway…), that your child will be a drain and a burden and you will be supporting them forever and ever…. well I feel this is coming from the wrong direction. Yes, Autism can be challenging – very challenging at times for the Autistic person and those that love and care for them too. But if this deficits model is our basis we are denying autistic children and adults the ability to reach their potential.

Another issue with this model is perception. I have autistic friends who use non-speech communication and require support people for daily life but they aren’t por sad little burdens, they are advocates and students and working to make things better – rather like I do I guess. If your focus on the difficult stuff you might miss someone’s potential.

I have a friend in the US who is an advocate and employment specialist. His name is Patrick Schwartz. When he describes people that he places in jobs he will say ‘This is Ben. Ben has as an attribute Downs syndrome…’ or ‘This is Jeanette. She has as an attribute Autism and schizophrenia…’  An attribute, part of the person’s identity, not a curse or a burden. Patrick finds engaging and meaningful work for so many people who were described as unemployable. He does this by shifting the focus from deficits to strengths. What CAN a person do? What do they enjoy? Make a spot or find a job they can do.

My mum once told me if I had been diagnosed as a child that my family would have been much more hands on and might have been less keen to let me move out of home and study and find work. In fact if you look at that time in my life then shortly after I moved out of home, I found myself with the ‘wrong crowd’, in prison and was soon a homeless drug addict with schizophrenia who deliberately went to prison thinking in a delusional state that it would cure my depression. This poor broken little me spent the next five years in and out of hospitals, prisons and crisis accommodation. I was a whopping great ‘burden’ if you think like that. However I got the right support to make positive choices. I now sit writing this in a home I own, having come home after a day at work as a middle manager in the public service. I am looking at my beautiful cat and beyond him the bookcase full of all my books and magazines and DVDs of me doing advocacy stuff. A week from today I will be at an awards night with my mum – the same woman who I imagine thought I would die and would have no future but the grave – my mum will be in the audience watching me as a finalist – and maybe the winner – of the Australian Capital Territory 2017 Woman of the Year award,

So the research and the dangerous and just simply ineffective ‘cures’ for Autism, the dangerous anti-vax  foolishness telling the world that essentially it is better your child die from a preventable disease than be Autistic, all the things stacked up on the side of deficits / burden  / Autism is a tragedy. I hope I can be seen standing opposite that encampment of idiocy and prejudice saying “We are valued. We are worthy. We are different. Learn our language not silence it.”

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Social communication – being a ‘different not less’ exchange student

If you read the Diagnostic Manual for various brain-related things including Autism, the DSM 5, – which I wouldn’t really recommend unless you need to. It’s not exactly light reading. Anyway one of the criteria for a diagnosis of Autism is in the statement below. There are cuter qualifying statements related to it:

Persistent deficits in social communication and social interaction across multiple contexts…

Regular readers of this blog will probably know I have some issues with the purely clinical concept of Autism contained within some of the diagnostic descriptions. I understand that the diagnostic criteria are there in order to provide thresholds of ‘disability’ which translate into funding for services, which is actually a useful thing if clinicians keep that in mind. My concern as always is the deficits basis which sees Autism only in terms of what Autistic people apparently have trouble doing and where we apparently ‘deviate’ from some ‘norm’ – which is undefined and unclassified. It fits that picture that Autism is something broken, an affliction which needs ‘solving’. As an Autistic self-advocate I recognise that some elements of Autism can be challenging and hard to live with. I also understand our great potential and how Autistic people who are supported and included and viewed as their own unique and valuable self rather than a burden, is probably considerably more likely to lead a fulfilled life. I also know as an Autistic adult, that many of the issues related to Autism stem from our interactions with the non-autistic world and its inhabitants.

Anyway today I was thinking about friendship as it related to Autistic people and thinking of the DSM 5 criterion around social communication and Autism and how it is quite firmly planted in the territory of ‘Autistic people do social communication ‘wrong.’’ I actually don’t believe that we do social communication ‘wrong’ but I believe there is something like a different culture between Autistic and non-autistic people and social communication is major point of difference between those two cultures.

So instead of a deviation form an imaginary social ‘norm’ it would probably be more helpful to think if you are friends with  a non-autistic person (or an Autistic one, depending on where you ‘sit’) that you are an exchange student learning the customs of the other person’s ’culture.’

Autistic people are considered to be between more than one in 100 in the population. This figure has grown over the past thirty years due to many things, such as greater understanding of Autism and changes to both the diagnostic criteria and how those are applied. Whatever the prevalence rate is, we are a minority in a world where many of those who live within the majority have no little or understanding of Autistic communication. To them we are maybe seen as quirky (when people are friendly) and ‘weird’ (and insert other more hurtful insults here) – for those who are judgemental and unsympathetic.’Cross-cultural friendships happen between Autistic and non-autistic people a lot – and sexual and intimate relationships too. In the deficits model, the non-autistic person might be seen as being kind for being friends with the Autistic person  – and I’d better not go down that track because it makes me rather angry to think of myself and my peers as ‘charity friends’.

In the deficits model of social communication I AM weird. I communicate very differently to how the non-autistic folks I know seem to. I don’t do eye contact as it is very unpleasant and I feel like I’m looking into the person’s soul which makes it hard to have a conversation with them. I don’t ‘get’ facial expressions or body language unless they are very marked (such as the person is crying). I join conversations midway and take every discussion on an interesting tangent and then forget where it started! If the conversation is a train, I inadvertently derail it every time! I am insecure and paranoid – probably more due to a history of bullying than any inherent Autistic traits. This is challenging though as I often have to reality check with a friend in case I think they don’t like me any more. I forget details about people’s life which are often important ones. I have to be reminded of who people are due to my prosopagnosia / face blindness. I am, as I like to say, a bit of a quirky Purky!

So those are my social characteristics which might seem a little odd to a non-autistic person. Let’s not just stop on the quirkiness aspect though. As a friend I have been told I am loyal and kind and will go out of my way to help those i care about. I almost never tell any kind of lie or dishonesty. If I do something I think might have upset a friend I will bite the bullet and tell them and I very rarely judge someone and when I do I take myself to task about it.

The odd thing about my positive friendship qualities is they are shared – in some form or anther – by most of my Autistic friends. People who are meant to have social communication deficits are so often kind and loyal friends. My social deficits are around things I can’t help very much – how my brain is wired in terms of interpreting facial expression and body language, that sort of thing. These deficits exist certainly but they are tempered by those very positive friendship qualities I, and apparently a large number of other Autistic people, have

The other thing to know is that non-autistic people can have some pretty difficult social deficits themselves. For example I am yet to meet a ‘two-faced’ Autistic person. I am also yet to meet an Autistic person who knowingly manipulates others to get their own way. In my life Autistic people have rarely done anything which has fundamentally upset or hurt me. So the people who’re supposed to have the social deficits have not been deficient. Not wanting to be a separatist or anything, but pretty much all the main damaging, violent and hurtful things which have been done in the context of my life have been done by non-autistic people. Of course Autistic people are certainly capable of violence  and malice and loads of other unpleasant things but it hasn’t really been something I have encountered.

So in terms of social deficits I think the DSM 5 has missed a few important points. Autistic people are not deviating from some ‘norm’ of positive social behaviour. Instead we form a separate social culture ourselves in which we tend to find it easer to find friends who understand us. The social differences in my mind really are like being from a different country with different customs and a different language. One is not better or worse than they other, they are simply different. And lots of people like going on a  cultural exchange to other countries to see what it is like and try the food and things. So maybe we can look at Autistic culture and social communication like that.  Back to the old ‘different not less’ statement again (thanks Temple 🙂

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Stop! Impostor!  – Interpersonal anxiety and impostor syndrome 

I wrote a blog post on this topic not too long ago but a number of people have been asking me about it and I have noticed some issues with myself too so I thought it might be worth a new post.

The title refers to a phenomenon known as impostor syndrome. What it means is that people who look confident and capable on the face of things are actually struggling with the idea that they are not able to do what they do. They doubt themselves and often wonder just when someone finds out they are just pretending to be proficient.

This is very common in professional arenas and particularly – although not exclusively – with women. Along with professional impostor syndrome is another, similar but different guise – what I think of as  interpersonal impostor syndrome.

While it is important to understand the professional type of impostor syndrome when we are in the workplace, I think the more pressing one can be the interpersonal one.

Impostor syndrome in interpersonal relationships can involve:

  • People  thinking they are essentially unlikeable and nobody actually likes them, even though they have caring friends
  • Reading additional and incorrect meaning into interpersonal  interactions
  • Significant self-doubt
  • Being hyper-vigilant around friendships and relationships – a sort of interpersonal perfectionism where people avoid dong or saying anything which might be interpreted as confrontational or critical
  • Joining peer groups and ‘cultures’ in order to be accepted, even if the person does not share the views of the group
  • Catastrophising around friends’ actions and misreading responses.

I know that I fit many of those attributes. Here is an example of something related to impostor syndrome which happens to me much more often than I would like.

I have a friend who I know mostly from social media who I really respect. She is a writer and a great disability activist. I love her writing and her work to make the world a better and more inclusive place. I would never knowingly say or do anything to upset this friend. We often like and comment on each other’s posts on social media. One day I commented on my friend’s post and a little while later I sent her a direct message. Only a few hours later I hadn’t had a response to comment or message so I panicked, I worried I had said something really rude or mean inadvertently (and yes, I know that is pretty much impossible to do but it is a frequent worry of mine!) I got so anxious that my friend thought I was horrible that I dug out her business card and called her on the phone. Of course I hadn’t done anything terrible, she was busy and hadn’t got to her social media yet. I felt pretty foolish and was very grateful she understood. For me – and I imagine many others who experience this interpersonal impostor syndrome, even though we know our friends or our partner wouldn’t simply stop talking to us, the anxiety can make our irrational thoughts seem very real.

These things tend to come from somewhere. If I look at my formative years, I was bullied throughout high school and subjected to abuse and violence as a young adult and was given a lot of negative messaging about my character, my capability and other attributes. I was taught through this invalidation to dislike myself, to feel anxious and ashamed, to worry that even close friends would suddenly distance themselves from me if I did something ‘wrong’ to upset them. I think for a lot of people in groups which tend to be disadvantaged – in my case Autistic people and people with mental illness – we get so much negative reinforcement and criticism that it amazes us as to why anyone would even consider being our friend.

There are some strategies which people can use around this. One is the simple reality check. If you can, find out what others see from their probably more objective viewpoint outside of your anxious brain.

One thing that I do is to use logic with myself when I am filled with doubt and interpersonal anxiety. What does the evidence show me? Were my comments on my friends’ Facebook post filled with anger or judgement or intended to be hurtful? If not it probably isn’t that. Also step outside of yourself and remember that other people do things differently to you. Some people might use social media or email differently to you causing you anxiety that they are not aware of – and why would they be?.

Find some strategies to deal with interpersonal anxiety. Things like mindfulness and cognitive behaviour therapy or deep breathing can be helpful with anxiety. Remember that anxiety is a response to a situation but it can move beyond that and became a more general, amorphous thing which permeates other areas of your life. If this is happening, addressing the interpersonal anxiety may not make the anxious feelings go away. So having means to address anxiety more generally is a good idea. Finally, work on your self-confidence and positive self-talk. This is often a long-term strategy and can be difficult but it really helps. Once you know that people like you because you are likeable, that is a very good thing. I know I am still on there journey towards that point.

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When my brain is a pain – mental health strategies

I have what I think most people would describe as a good life. I am employed, accomplished and have a wonderful cat, along with many other fine attributes. But my companion for the past 22 yeas has been the poor behaviour of my errant brain with its resident mental illness. I am a high achieve with mental illness, which is a bit of a privilege for me. I am one of many people who gives an example of a life lived well with mental illness. As I am also Autistic I feel that I am in a very good spot to support and empower others with similar challenges.

My mental illness has been given many names by different doctors but when I unpack it involves the symptoms of mood issues (either depression or elevated mood / mania, which might sound enjoyable but usually involves hardly getting any sleep, spending money on unnecessary and sometimes puzzling things, being incredibly irritable and always having the threat of terminally damaging my reputation). I also have episodes of psychosis and ongoing psychotic symptoms like visual and auditory hallucinations, delusional thinking (e.g. ‘I am dead and in purgatory’) and ideas of reference – meaning I see personal significance and often prophesy in things like adverts and news articles. Since I was diagnosed with schizophrenia in 1995, I have had countless stays in many different psychiatric hospitals, residential services and therapy courses.

In my twenties my mental  illness pretty much destroyed me and any hope I might have had ta the time. I was aggressive, confused, disempowered and self-destructive. Yet now I am quite good at managing my illness and what comes along with it. I have somehow taken on a great deal of insight and self-awareness. I own my illness and am not ashamed of it and I know countless strategies which enable me to live a fulfilled life.

I imagine that some people think because of my unusually large workload and my proficiency at writing and public speaking that my illness is ‘mild’ (who invented that unhelpful little word??) In fact a few years ago, while working in a professional role and outwardly ‘living the dream’, I had the crisis team and my case worker come and take me to hospital a number of times and was placed on a mental health treatment order on one occasion. Even now I regularly speak to the crisis team, Lifeline and my psychiatrist and take high doses of a number of psychiatric medications, without which my life would be extremely frightening and unpleasant. My mental illness is far from mild but I have strategies I use to address it and make it manageable. I often suffer but it does not stop me from living my life.

My main mental health strategies fall into the categories of:

  • My own attitudes and thinking
  • Taking medication as prescribed and seeing my doctor to change anything in regard to meds
  • Regular visits to mental health professionals – in my case my psychiatrist – and my GP
  • Being willing to ask for help when I need it
  • A wide rage of practical strategies including distracting myself with enjoyable activity (this means my work), self-soothing / stimming, challenging negative thinking and paranoia
  • Mr Kitty – he is both good for long term, ongoing mental health ‘maintenance’ and in a crisis too
  • Strategies for a crisis – knowing who to contact, what to do and understanding it will pass
  • My advocacy and my paid work. These are both a distraction but also a strong protective factor. For example if I have suicidal thoughts, a helpful tactic is to reflect on what a terrible sort of  legacy that would be for all the people who read my writing on mental health or look to me for support and empowerment against their own mental health demons?
  • Address Autism-related issues where possible. Sensory issues and meltdown are bad enough but when I am in mental health crisis they can present a perfect storm of misery and overload. Looking after my levels of sensory and other stimulation, ensuring I have enough solitary time and having friends and colleagues who understand my Autism is also a great mental health strategy.

I choose to be open and honest and quite a bit vulnerable at times about my illness. This is a  conscious choice When people hear ‘schizophrenia’  or ‘psychosis’ they can get quite upset. Unfortunately the media and popular culture often incorrectly use the term psychosis as an interchangeable word for psychopathic. This is not only completely wrong, it is very unhelpful for people like me because I have to explain I am not a psychopath when I am unwell! These days I am actually very vulnerable when experiencing psychosis and  – sadly, because I know this from experience – I am much more likely to be a victim than a perpetrator of violence.

Over time and experience, I realised how important it is for mental illnesses to be seen as a health issue rather than a character flaw. People with mental illness do not get it because they are ‘weak’, people who engage in self-injurious behaviour probably aren’t ‘doing it ‘for attention’, and even if they are it goes much deeper than that simple and judgmental statement. Psychosis doesn’t mean psychopath (stupid media!), many people with mental illness can and do study, work. have families and relationships and all the sorts of things others do. Despite a lot of good work being done to address stigma in recent years there is still a lot of stigma and assumptions around mental illness.

After having worked in a suit-y office environment for ten years, I can cite a number of occasions where colleagues – some in management positions – have told me they have schizophrenia or bipolar. It is said almost as a shameful thing or an admission of fault but it shouldn’t be. I will not be ashamed of my illness so if you are on my social media you will probably see some posts about how things are hard or I am struggling with my errant Jeanette brain. It doesn’t mean I am less able to advocate for others or that I can’t do my work. I find the opposite of that is usually the case. It does mean I  have had a difficult life at times and still do, that I have been invalidated and gaslighted, often by services which are supposed to be helping me and that I have to be constantly aware of my mental health. I think it probably also means I am able to be quite compassionate and kind. Unlike some chronic overachievers, I do not judge other people by their outputs. I spent many years making no outputs at all other than entries in my hospital file, and I know a person’s character is far more important than what is listed on their CV. \

My mental illness is just one of my attributes. I don;t know why I would ever feel ashamed of it

Let’s change the world….just a bit

I have never thought of myself as someone who wants or needs power. I could not think of anything worse for me than being an elected official in high office, responsible for making decisions which impact the whole country or the world. ‘Best left to the experts’ has usually been my approach to that. Lately I have been paying more attention to world affairs than usual. For the first time ever I have thought about how good it would be if I could spread the message of inclusion, respect, kindness and my own brand of what I call ‘gentle power’ around the world and make things kinder and less frightening. These thoughts are odd little day dreamy fantasies which will never result in any action on my part. Even so, lately I have felt powerless and redundant and that I need to do more.

On Monday something happened which got me reconsidering my feelings of powerlessness, thanks to a lovely person who told me that she was still in the world because of something I did. Of course what I did was only a part – I can’t take credit for her positive choice. I spent all of the next day reflecting on the idea that something I did and said had resulted in somebody being in this world who wouldn’t otherwise have been. I reflected on how happy I was but also how responsible we are to the people we share our lives with in whatever way – significant or minor.

I thought abut this notion of responsibility for those around us. I go through life with a smile on my face mostly. I try to be kind to everyone. I choose to be thoughtful and helpful where I can. This isn’t because I’m a saint. It s because I spent five years of my life taking – from society as a criminal and a recipient of a lot of tax expenditure, from my family by causing them endless, unimaginable stress and worry and from individuals by being aggressive, demanding and needy. This shadow me did so much taking that that when I decided to change I made a couple of choices. One was that I would no longer take but give and the other was that I would understand how human beings ‘worked’ as well as I could and make sure that every interaction I had was positive and helpful. I think mostly it worked. Every day many people at my workplace  – which employs around 2000 people – smile and say hello. I have to not focus too closely on comments on my social media because people are frequently telling me how I have helped them and I don’t want to get a big ego. The world at the moment is a really lovely place to be me and I owe this largely  to making those positive decisions about my direction many years ago.

And this takes me to the changing the world conundrum. People who espouse gentle power do not generally take on positions of world leadership. I will never change the whole world with one big pronouncement or action and I really don’t want to. But the other day I helped to change the world for one person and those who know and love her by my actions and care, meaning she made the excellent choice to stay with us. I only know of this one case of me being influential in such a decision but I now wonder if that has been the case for others too. I won’t ever know and I don’t desperately need to.

So yes, I changed the world. We actually all change the world by being in it. We change the world for our family and for those we love. We change the world for our pets and our colleagues and people we see in the supermarket. I know it sounds trite and there are any number of silly movies about this idea but it is actually true on some level. When I decided to no longer be a criminal and a negative person I decided that I wanted to just do to other people what I would like done to me and conversely to not do things to others which I wouldn’t want them to do to me. That is a simple – and in my case very effective – premise.

And that’s what I do to change the world and that is meaningful. Leave it how you found it, do no harm and just be good to people. I found once I started to help not hinder it wasn’t all that difficult and my life since then has been a lot happier, meaning I have gained benefit too.

I’ll finish with a thought I had in conversation with my Dad a while back. We were talking about what to do when there is evil in the world. We discussed Nazi occupied Europe and I said that people who hid those trying to escape from that horrific regime did not change the geographical or political world but for those they hid, they changed their entire world. So let’s go change the world.

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Autism and employment – making work work better

I will start this post on Autism and employment by saying we don’t do employment for Autistic people well. So many Autistic people are unemployed, underemployed and / or work in unsuitable jobs.

Thankfully, on a personal level, i have made a career for myself in the professional world. This post will be a mixture of reflecting on how I got to where I am  as well as strategies which might help others in their employment journey. I recognise that Autistic people often face significant barriers to finding and keeping a job and just building job readiness skills is probably not going to result in employment where the recruitment processes (interview particularly) and the workplace is not ‘Autism-friendly. It is usually more complex than people just needing a positive attitude and some determination.

This week marks my ten year anniversary of being a public servant. My work history started in 1992 when I was 17. I worked in a  fast food restaurant. I hated the work. I didn’t know what to say to my colleagues outside of work. I was there two years and was promoted to a junior manager role. Then a new store manager joined who was a creepy abuser and he subjected me and other colleagues to sexual violence. Not knowing what to do, I quit my job. My life at that point went rapidly downhill. A few years later and I was in a desperate situation as an ex-prisoner with severe mental illness. I had made so many errors and poor choices that I was determined to change. I enrolled in university and started looking of work.

I had a huge degree of perfectionism and was terrified of making a mistake. A fairly easy dishwashing job in a restaurant resulted in some much stress and perfectionism that I became unwell with psychosis. I didn’t give up though. Over the next few years I did what I would now describe as ‘controlled challenges’. I took on incrementally more difficult employment situations and gained confidence. After building my confidence I applied for a graduate job in a Government Department. I had been undertaking study while preparing my employment journey and applied for the graduate job with a Masters degree in Fine Arts. I completed all the recruitment criteria and I was successful. In my whole life I had never worked in an office and I had significant barriers to employment. I moved interstate to take up my job. The change was very scary but I was moving from a world of  poverty, misery and a lack of choices to what I imagined woful be middle-class heaven.

I loved my job in the public service as soon as I started. There were challenges but there were huge benefits too.It must be good as I have been there ten years and have been promoted twice – to the level I am happy to stay at. My world of work went from woeful but I now think it is quite wonderful. I love that I am a visible Autistic person with mental illness who has professional role. While there are a good many of us, not everyone is ‘out’  at work (which is often understandable due to concerns of stigma) and for some people they are told a lot of negative things about their capability to don’t think to try and join the workforce.

Some the issues for autistic job seekers and employees include:

  • Anxiety – sometimes worsened through unpleasant and invalidating experiences in previous jobs
  • Lack of willingness by employers to hire Autistic staff
  • Lack of understanding of Autism among managers and staff
  • Communication misunderstandings
  • Intersectional disadvantage  and discrimination (i.e. Autistic person belongs to other groups which face disadvantages such as non-English speaking background, gender diverse, Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander background, Queer etc)
  • Sensory issues – non-autistic colleagues and mangers often have no frame of reference for sensory overload and may dismiss sensory concerns
  • Applications – difficulty ‘selling yourself’
  • Interviews Interviews Interviews Interviews!! A job interview favours a confident extrovert. Many Autistic people are neither of those things and find it difficult to wear their ‘cloak of confidence’ and pretend to be confident
  • Interpersonal issues
  • Discrimination and bullying
  • Being perceived as odd, or incompetent due to presentation and communicating differently
  • Executive functioning difficulties – these can make it hard to manage timeframes and deadlines and prioritise work effectively
  • The ‘hidden curriculum’ – unwritten roles for workplace social behaviour which non-autistic people seem to know intuitively but we don’t!
  • Understanding how to navigate workplace hierarchies.

Some strategies

Some things I have found helpful in the workplace include:

  • In applications and interviews practice and research. Research the company you are applying to work at. Know what they do. Look at things like their mission statement and annual report, to get an idea of what they place emphasis on.
  • With interviews, preparation is the key. Know that a job interview is likely to be difficult but not impossible. Usually if you have made it to the interview stage the employer is convinced you can do the job but just wants to get to know you. As Autistics we can assume everyone will dislike us but this does not always have to be the case. Practice your interview technique and knowledge of the job with a friend, partner, family member or in front of a mirror. In my case Mr Kitty gets to be the boss if I need to prepare for an interview. This will help you to have a ‘road map’ in your mind  and hopefully be better prepared and less anxious at the actual interview.
  • Consider whether, when and how much you will tell you employer about your Autism. There is no ‘right’ way to do this and it is your personal choice. Give it some thought and work out a strategy. You don’t necessarily need to stick to the strategy but it can inform your thinking.
  • Have someone you can talk to about your job and any issues which come up. Preferably this should be someone you know outside of work. You don’t want to spend half an hour venting about the boss to a colleague and find out they are friends with one another!
  • When you start a job you will not be as competent as when you have been there for a while. You will learn on the job. We often expect to be proficient at something the instant we start doing it but this is not how it works. Your manager will not be expecting you to be perfect in your first couple of weeks. Try not to be a perfectionist and tell yourself you will improve.
  • Reality check. Often we can become anxious at work about something  we did or said. This anxiety can become significant and impact on how we do out work. If possible, when you start being worried about something you did or said ask your manager or the person who saw you say or do that you are worried about, whether they are OK with it or if you upset them. You can even say ‘I’m just doing a  reality check…’
  • If there is such a thing where you work, you could get involved in the disability staff network or similar group. This will put you in touch with other employees who may have some similar concerns and experiences to you.
  • There are now some Autism-specific employment programs which are quite good. In Australia – and around the world – there is an organisation called Specialisterne which aims to make 1 million jobs for Autistic people worldwide within ten years. They provide jobs in a variety of industries. In Australia we have a number of Specialisterne jobs in  IT areas like software testing and cybersecurity and also a program in agriculture. They tailor their recruitment processes and management to be more suited to Autistic styles of communication. These are jobs in open employment, not subsidised places. If you think this is something you would like to do check it out!
  • Finally, try not to doubt yourself. You might question your employability or ability to secure and keep a job which works for you. This is understandable given some of the prejudice around Autism. However many Autistic people who thought they would never work – like me – have found good employment ‘fit’.

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